Developing Healthy Self-Talk

Developing Healthy Self-Talk
Part one of two

This will perhaps be better presented in two parts:

The first and most important step in transforming negative, destructive self-talk is to recognize and acknowledge its existence. Many people struggle with “issues” in life and keep trying the same old strategies to beat them year after year to no avail. And we all know “if we keep doing what we have always done, we will keep getting what we have always gotten.” So, we need a new plan. The plan below is not intended to be a “quick fix” for something that can and may indeed be choking the life out of you you. For some it will be an answer to prayer. For others it may be a ray of light in the darkness. Simply work through it and ask Father to use it in your journey to freedom/
Here is a brief starter for you:

1- Stop and listen. This needs to be done when you have made one of those “missteps” mentioned in my last post. This is when it is most prevalent so it is the best time to listen for it.

2- Identify the negative “self-talk” what you said to yourself. “I am so stupid”, “I am worthless”, you fill in the blank.

3- Now ask yourself where it originated. If you don’t remember, ask father to reveal its source to you. Someone who said or did something or did not do something that should have been done.

4- You now have a choice to make. Do I want to continue allowing this person or persons to hold me hostage or would I rather be free to “have a Life”?

5- Matthew 18:21-35 gives us a picture of what forgiveness is truly about. It is a choice to release that person or persons from responsibility to repay you for the hurt they have cause you. Study the passage well and realize that “forgiving” them is not for them. It is not giving them a free pass or saying it is ok. It is releasing you from the prison within. As you forgive each one you will free yourself from the anger, resentment, hatred and bitterness that is likely now affecting every cell of your life. (More on forgiveness later)


Continued in my next post …….